Blowjobs should be fun and erotic at the same time. It's not limited solely to technique. People with heart shaped pillow shaped lips have an advantage. But enthusiasm goes a long way and can make up for lack of skill. The BJ can be an expression of intimacy or just pure fun. Some guys like a heavy making out session progressing up to the deed. Some prefer the spontaneous surprise of having there pants ripped down and their cock attacked with your mouth from out of no where. It can be a prelude to sex or an activity of its own merit. Giving the perfect blow job takes trial and error. You will do your best work if you have the same partner for a period of time and you've gotten to know each other's likes and dislikes.

To start Find a position that is comfortable for you and him. Some guys have a natural bend to their penis. The most comfortable position for you will be from an angle where the bend fits the natural curve of your throat.

• With him either sitting or standing kneel in front of him - it's a good way control speed, depth and pressure or to allow the man to control your head.
• With him lying down and you kneeling over him - you have more freedom of movement
• With you lying down and him kneeling over your face - you may feel a loss of control when he's in your throat
• With you on your back, a pillow under your shoulders so that your head is tipped back over the edge of the bed and he is kneeling over you. When your head is tipped back, your airway is more open. It makes it much easier to deep throat.

If you're going to use a condom put it on now, be sure to get one that is lubricant-free, preferably flavored. Although, using a generous amount of water-based lubricant inside the condom will increase his pleasure greatly.

Start by using combinations of sucking, licking, and stroking his penis and balls. Use one hand to slowly, softly knead his balls while the other is wrapped around the cock. Take him firmly in your mouth and bob your head up and down. Make several short strokes on the head, deep throat and repeat. Most if not all men love a deep throat but not everyone can do it, it's ok. Just go as far down as you can breathe and not gag. Keep a steady rhythm and keep your teeth to yourself. If you're having a difficult time bringing a guy to orgasm don't fret or complain. It will just take longer. Give your mouth a break and use your hands, massage his balls, jerk him off, and touch him on other places of his body. Figure out what method of stimulation is getting the best response and go with it. Make some noise: moans, slurping sounds and mmm...mmm show that you are really enjoying your job. Use lots of variation between tongue, mouth, eye contact and stroking. If you're adventurous, even try putting a finger or two in his ass to stimulate his prostate. However, be careful not to put them anywhere near the penis afterward. A pair of latex gloves and water-based lube will help with hygiene. Never do anything fast until right at the end. Increase the speed and pressure as he is about to cum.

Some of us would much rather receive than give. If giving a blow job is not something you're really comfortable with or skilled at but want to try anyway, go for it. A good BJ can be 60-80% hand job and licking. If you're a willing volunteer act like you like it, better yet really like it. Having an eager and willing attitude can be an incredible turn-on in and of itself, just for a man to know your want his dick. If your mind is somewhere else or you're watching the clock neither of you are enjoying the experience, why waste the time.

Now for the finale! Spit or swallow? This is a personal decision based on your comfort zone and how well you know your partner. How you plan to finish should be discussed or at least mentioned before things get started. Some think that little rush off to the bathroom to spit afterwards is cute. They are happy enough just to have gotten head. Some guys are offended if you don't swallow. A compromise would be a facial or to allow him to cum somewhere else on your body, your ass, breast, hair, etc. If you use a condom this really won't be an issue.

The risk of transmitting infections, including HIV, is significantly less with oral sex than with intercourse. But herpes, hepatitis, gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis as well as the virus that causes AIDS can all be transmitted orally, especially if he ejaculates in your mouth.

Although it's known as a 'blow job', the one thing you should not do is blow into your partner's body. You could cause an embolism (an air bubble which obstructs an artery)